As a blogger, I know I am bound to receive some “feedback” based on what I write, and I knew that coming into this social networking world. But from the outside, it’s easy for others to judge and blame, and cast their opinions on those they don’t even really know.
I write my blog about me–my life, my family, my friends, my activities, and the things I find important. For what it’s worth, 99% of the comments I receive are positive and uplifting and make me continue to want to do this and journal life’s up and downs, but of course with that comes the negative…the naysayers who can only try to belittle others to make themselves feel better, or to hide behind “anonymous” comments because they don’t have the audacity to make themselves known. To them, I say…you just don’t matter.
People can say what they want about you–they can talk about you and can assume they know you, but they don’t and they never will. We all change and grow up and are finding our own paths. I just feel fortunate enough to have realized the people that truly matter far earlier in life than I thought I would…I find that to be a true blessing from God.
From the outside, you may think my life seems great. I get so many sweet notes and emails saying just how positive my outlook is on life and how they know they can always read my blog for some happiness no matter what’s going on and I appreciate that more than you will ever know. But from the outside, you may not know that I have bad days just like everyone else…I have doubts, and get scared of what’s to come, and have negative thoughts that run through my head, and days where I just want to stay in bed.
From the outside, you may not know that I have had to deal with a few life set backs just like everyone else…from a really bad car accident my freshmen year of college, to difficult bouts of asthma during my adolescent years, to having to make difficult choices as an adult about which path to pursue, these are things you just may not know about me. It’s not all pretty, but it’s my life and I know having to overcome these obstacles only makes me stronger.
So when you’re faced with the “mean ones” who try to talk down to you and hurt you, just remember that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent…the best thing you can ever do is just to rise above the adversity and do much more–that only hurts their cause even more.
I'm sorry someone has tried to bring you down but once again you've proven the glass is half full! You're right those people don't matter and have no say about who you are. I LOVE your blog and read it daily. You are a positive person and in a world filled with negative everything it's refreshing. It makes me want to keep up with my blog more (I'm awful at it)! Keep doing what you're doing because you really do make a difference and really are a blessing to this blog world as I'm sure you are in your own world.
You are always so posititve. Love the blog
UGH! Sorry doll! Don't let those "anonymous" people get you down! They're not worth it! 🙂
I hate that others feel the need to leave nasty, negative comments on blogs. If you don't like something, don't read it.
Personally, I love your blog. I think it is so great that your space here in the blog world is so positive. After all, the new name is Hello! Happiness!
Thank you for looking at the positive in life even when someone is trying to tear you down, and then sharing that positive attitude with us!
Very well said! I love the last image quote- gratitude is everything. Hope you have a good day 🙂
Great post, Natasha! I am sorry you are dealing with those negative nellies. I love that you put your best foot forward & approached this in such a tactful & classy way. Kudos to you! I too love your blog & I love your positive attitude toward life.
This is so real. I love it. So often it's so easy for others just to see the "sunshine" and they forget that we still go through the tough things like everyone else. Thanks for the encouragement to rise about the negative!
Well said! I hate negative commenters. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything. Isn't that the rule to follow?
I really like this post! Chin up pretty lady
well said dear friend!
I love reading your blog and it really does brighten my day. You are always so positive and full of sunshine. I find that most of the ladies in the blogging world do a great job of building each other up and providing encouragement, however, there are some people that are negative and make themselves feel better by putting others down. Thankfully, those people are in the minority. Just remember that the vast majority of your readers love you and appreciate you everyday!
WOW, I've been really down lately and throwing a pity party for myself because of the way I'm treated by people who have appeared to be my friends and then have turned out to be entirely fake! I really needed to read a post like this to assure me Im not the only one that has "haters"! Thanks for that!!!
Natasha, this is so eloquently put. I want to stand up and clap but I think the guys I work with will appreciate it I remain seated, ha! We all have our downsides and trials. It's the way we handle ourselves, the way we hold our heads high and keep our thoughts positive, that gets us through them. I've always thought 'like attracts like' so if you're down and out and think only of how bad things are, why wouldn't they stay dreary?
Just this morning I had a TERRIBLE commute from Brentwood to Goodlettsville and by the time I got to my desk, I hated everything and every one. But instead of letting one 30 minutes turned 1 drive ruin my day, I sat down, took several deep breaths and decided I'd have a good day from there on out. So far, so good.
Sorry for the novel, I'm just really feeling this post! Happy thoughts on this beautiful day in Nashville!!
I had to remind myself of this just last night/this morning:
Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you (Luke 6:27-28).
People can be so hurtful sometimes, but you can't let their unhappiness bring down yours!
So true! Thank you for writing this post. Life is full of people who get joy by hurting others. It is how we react to the situation that matters. There are so many good things to focus on instead and you do this.
Thanks for writing this post! There seems to be a lot of negativity in the blogging world right now–no thank you! I am glad you addressed this problem without being a negative nancy!! 🙂
It blows my mind someone would EVER leave you a negative comment. I can't wait to read your blog every day and truly look up to you for the postive outlook you have on things. Keep your head up!
This is exactly what I needed to hear. It's hard to stay positive but it helps knowing that other people understand what you're going through and survive. Thank you!
Well said and exactly what I needed to read today. Thanks for the inspiration!
So true! Don't even worry about those people….they're always just jealous anyway! 🙂
I have never commented on your blog, but today I felt compelled. I am going through some rough patches and a few minor life changes and have had to re-evaluate some things. What you said is so true. I have been staying positive and focused on what's good in my life opposed to what's negative.
Thank you for this post, just at the right moment 🙂
1st- love your blog! 2nd- haters are everywhere, in all walks of life. I say, let them hate! Don't let it bother you! 🙂
I love this! & I love your blog!! Everything you said is so true!
I love you and your blog. Remember those people are only trying to make themselves feel better. Keep your chin held high!
Great post! I love how the mean comments are never left with a name or email. It's because they know they are in the wrong.
this is a really wonderful post and worthy of addressing! bloggers lives definitely aren't perfect. i feel like all of us as a whole get judged a lot for trying to potray 'perfect' lives online, but really we're all human like you said, we all have our good days and bad days, but it's nice to reflect on the good in what we write and share!
There are always gonna be haters out there. You keep doing you Natasha!
I love this post! The positivity in life will always triumph though. Keep your chin up. xo.
It makes me so sad that people have to give negative comments on other people's lives. You are so right, we don't know ALL the things that go on in others' lives in this community, yet we should respect what each of us chooses to share. Thank you for sharing your life AND your positive attitude!!
Wow. I can't even imagine someone saying something negative to you. Seriously you are like THEE nicest blogger EVER! Keep your head held high girl! All of us "real" followers are behind you 100%
I know how hard it is not to let anonymous comments get you down every once in a while, but they really don't matter. They're just trying to bring you down.
Shame on them! Keep enjoying life, and don't sweat the small stuff.
Hang in there girl!! Thats the down fall to having a popular blog! I always think about the celebs on twitter and how much hate they receive. You rock though!
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