Last week during my monthly meetup for bunco with some of my favorite ladies, they brought it to my attention that I tend to focus on the good parts of motherhood by what I share on my blog and it really got me thinking…By NO means do I want yall to think this is easy peasy or glamorous, or that there aren’t rough days, because I assure you, I get stressed out sometimes and need a breath of fresh air. A lot of you have told me you like when I talk about our days and how we spend our time and what motherhood is really like, but I do want to be honest and not have you think it’s sunshine and rainbows all the time, because we all know that just isn’t true.
However, on the contrary, I am not one to focus on the negative aspect of things in my life because I don’t see the value in looking at the glass as half empty…that’s just not my personality so that is absolutely one reason I tend to show the good, and maybe leave out some of the bad and the ugly.
For instance, I didn’t tell you that I got pooped on twice in one day last week when Caroline had a crazy bout of nastiness, and I absolutely left out the part where I had to change outfits four times in one day because she kept throwing up on me. I just didn’t think anybody would realistically want to know those little details…am I right?
But in looking ahead, I promise to be more upfront and honest with you…I promise I will leave out some of the intricate details because no one needs to know THAT much, but I want to show you the real ins and outs of my life and let you know that by no means am I trying to paint a pretty picture by leaving out some of the struggles we encounter.
great post! it's nice to get some positive vibes đ
http://typicalcollegegirl.blogspot.com
I love your posts! I think they are real and you don't have to talk about getting pooped on or how little sleep you are getting bc everyone knows/assumes that! However, if you do find a magic sleep method I'm all ears. I'll be a new momma in Oct and kinda nervous about that aspect.
I appreciate this! As a mom to a 4 week old, it is much more helpful to hear what real life is like. While it is absolutely the best job in the world, it is also the hardest.
PS you mentioned before that you use Little Tummies gas drops. Does it work well? We use a different brand and I am nr convinced they work all that well…
Hi friend.
I hear ya on this for sure. I've often wondered if people are under the impression that I "sugar coat" life for my blog. And truthfully, I have the exact same outlook as you. I do occasionally put things out there that detail the real and hard stuff, where things aren't always pretty and perfect (because they never are). But, I'd rather my friends (that I've met and those that I haven't!), visit my blog and leave with a smile on their face. I think I've documented the ups and downs of motherhood. And truth be told, while every day is by no means perfect, I was lucky enough to get a really easy baby [which people also hate hearing]. So, I think everyone's approach and view on mommyhood varies depending on your situation and your child at their particular stage of development (like right now, Jackson is a total brat and cries every time I put him down…. where did my angel baby go?).
Anyway, point being, keep on doing what you're doing. There must be a reason why 1,624 people (just saw the count over there on the side – I assure you I don't know that # by heart – ha!!!) follow your blog, RIGHT? đ
I get puked on daily but I completely agree that there is no sense on focusing or dwelling on those aspects when we get to see all those big toothless grins daily- they totally outweigh the not so glam aspects of motherhood:) Happy Hump Day to you and CC
I love your blog and reading all about your days with Caroline. I just think that unless someone has never ever been around a little one we know it's tough sometimes and it's not easy 24/7. You seem so very balanced in your life and I think that shows on your blog. You're doing great!
I love hearing it all natasha! Your blog just brightens my day either way! But, I do like your point and think it's always good to bring out the good, which you do a great job doing!
I was JUST talking about this with another blogger. It definitely is a delicate balance. No one wants to read Negative Nancy's blog every day, but at the same time, it's not fair to always put out a facade of how great things all the time, if that's not reality. I think you do a wonderful job and just love hearing all about life with C, so keep it up! XO
Long time reader but i never comment :-)I think you do an excellent job of sharing your life with your upbeat personality and you certainly do not give off a vibe of everything being perfect and nothing going wrong. I know exactly what you mean about putting on a show that things are always great and I definitely do not get that from reading your blog.
I like that you address this, it lets me know that you are just naturally an optimistic person. I've never commented before, but just last night I was telling my husband how some blogs are so negative and others portrayal of their life seems so. . . perfect. I actually mentioned your blog and wondered aloud if your life was easy as its portrayed sometimes.
It's good to know I'm not the only one who has wondered. It kind of made me feel bad. But, it's also good to hear your side of the situation. That you CHOOSE to think about the good and not dwell on the bad.
Love this post, Natasha! SO true! Here is your guest post on my blog from yesterday, I wasn't sure if you saw it! Looks GREAT!
http://decorgreat.blogspot.com/2012/06/love-it-leave-it.html
xo,
Brooke
I have always enjoyed your positive attitude on your blog. I don't feel like it's fake or leaving things out, just that you have a great attitude about life. I've seen tidbits here and there when you've talked about C's tummy struggles, BFing issues, etc… I think it all seems real!
Keep on bloggin away miss!! đ
I love your blog…and the reason I keep coming back is because you are so positive….There are so many blogs out there that do scare new mom to be, and future moms to be. Its refreshing and nice to hear it from a positive standpoint. I say keep up what your doing…Everyone assumes there are some bad days…You should share what you want to share, you are a positive person, and so is your blog!
I totally understand your perspective. It's not fun to dwell on the tough times or challenges – it's much more fun to celebrate the triumphs and milestones of motherhood. All mothers have been in your shoes – we KNOW it's challenging. I'd never fault you for wanting to share the good things. But I'd also never fault you for sharing some of those tough times. This is your place to talk about what YOU want! I know it's tough to find a balance of being true to your experience and also documenting the things you want to remember. I've enjoyed reading about your times with Miss Caroline and experience with motherhood so far! xo
I know exactly where you're coming from. My mom always told me that it's just as easy to find a positive as it is to find a negative in any situation. As a result, I am referred to as "Pollyanna". Keep writing about the good things because even in the moments where you're being thrown up on I'm sure that you are still so happy that you were blessed to have a beautiful, healthy baby girl
I'm happy to hear (read?) this. I have been reading your blog for a long time and envy your "perfect" life. I'm not happy it's not all rainbows and sunshine for you, by any means, but it does make me feel a bit more normal that you, too, have not so perfect days.
Love this!!
Everyone has their not-so-perfect days. But, I'm like you, no need to focus on the negative ALL the time. I love your positive outlook. đ