When you blog, you let people-mostly strangers nonetheless-take a peak into your daily life. It’s funny how this whole blogging thing started for me almost 5 years ago…I wanted to document my life, when I was single living in the city, bouncing around town with all my friends…bla bla bla. Funny how it’s transformed and how I still use it as a way to document things going on around me and then throw in some fashion for fun, or some tasty recipes because it’s nice to share the good ones, but then as your blog grows and evolves and you gain readership, it’s like the door is opened for harsh criticism and “mean girls” to say hurtful things about you and you’re supposed to sit there, delete it, and move on.
I have taken that route when I’ve received some nasty mail in the past, but this time, I’m standing up for myself…I’m not going to let one negative person get me down and say things that simply aren’t true.
I opened the blog up for a little Q&A session last week, and I received some interesting, and yet very personal questions. Honestly, I didn’t think I’d receive some of the questions I did, but I have been trying my best to be open and honest in everything I said when I answered what my readers wanted to know… maybe that is where I went wrong.
Yesterday morning, I received a rather rude comment from a reader, so after much thinking, I decided that it was time to respond in my own words:
To my commenter Amanda… I would have loved the opportunity to respond to your nastygram personally, though since you have a private profile with no linked email address, I have taken it upon myself to do so here. First of all, I do believe everyone is entitled to their own opinion…this is America after all and we have the freedom to say as we please. However, if I have offended you and you don’t feel as though I am “real”, then why read MY blog at all? I’m fine if you simply delete me from the list of blogs you read if you find no relevance from what I post…I suppose that would be the adult thing to do rather than to bash someone you really don’t know on the internet.
In answering some of what you mention in your comment, saying I “have money” just isn’t so. I started my career right out of college and worked my way up the marketing department at the firm I was employed with so that I could make more money…a lesson I was taught by my parents. I have dealt with financial struggles in the past-working to pay off my college loans, making monthly payments on credit cards to finally have them paid off, learning what it’s like to live off the $20 I have in my checking account, etc. My mom and dad instilled hard work and dedication in me from an early age and I have had a job since the day I turned 16, even working part-time through high school and college. I wasn’t brought up with money, I came from an average, hard-working middle class family–I was just taught how to work with what God gave me and do the best I could.
As for the struggles of most families/SAHMs, is there a “normal” when it comes to what we face? Every single person is different and we all struggle in one way or another, whether that be with money, self confidence, weight, abuse, etc…I have mentioned our struggles on my blog before and I don’t try to pretend like Jeff and I have the perfect marriage/house/etc. I know I am not the perfect mother, nor will I ever be..I’ll probably fail on more occasions than I care to think about, but if my children are happy and are good people, then I think I will have succeeded. Aren’t we all trying to live the best version of our lives?
I’m sorry if you think I “boast” about my life… I was simply answering questions that others asked me, and I was trying to be upfront and honest. People inquired about the house we are planning to build, so I answered-I had no idea that would be considered “boastful”. Jeff did go to private school growing up, whereas I went to a public school…and part of the reason we are hoping to build a home is so that we CAN live in an area where we are able to send our girls to a public school and take advantage of all these incredible teachers-is that so wrong?
Saying I am like a “Desperate Housewife of Nashville”…wow, you’ve got it all wrong my dear. Rarely do I leave the house on with makeup on during the week, I usually have on workout clothes, and Caroline is usually the “loud/wild child” when we are in public. Saying “how I spend my husbands’ money”…well, in my marriage it’s not considered his versus mine, but OURS. That is something our pastor instilled in us when we went through premarital counseling. I don’t try to cash in on some blogger payroll and items/companies that I promote are ones that I stand behind-not because I am trying to make money. If you see where I shop, you’ll notice it’s at places like Gap, Target, Old Navy, Forever 21, etc. I don’t buy $200 dresses for “everyday” looks-that’s just not my style, nor my budget.
If you like these other blogs that offer “real advice” on finances, decorating, being a SAHM, then by all means, please read them and not mine.
Saying you’ll “save my prayers for the families that really need it, not some fortunate Nashvillian with a false sense of reality”…well, honestly, I don’t think I would want your prayers, Amanda, but I assure you I’ll be praying for you. Obviously you need it more than I do.
To everyone out there that reached out to me after this instance, I appreciate your kind words more than you know…it’s hard putting yourself out there, only to be criticized by strangers who think they know you. I try to be myself 100% of the time, and show how my life really is…I’ve said it before, but it’s not all rainbows and sunshine and I don’t pretend to live a life other than the one God gave me. I hope I didn’t offend others out there, and if I did, I am truly sorry. I’m done for today, friends. I think it’s time to spend some time with Caroline and Jeff and not think about the few who try to belittle and hurt others. I wish yall a happy weekend.
I hate that this can happen sometimes in the blogging community, but I guess there are always haters. We all get rude/mean comments sometimes. Don't let it get you down girl! Good for you for addressing it! PS – I don't get that impression of you at all! I want to drive down from Knoxville right now just to hug your neck 🙂
I love your blog specifically because you are real! I'm a relatively new reader, but I really appreciate how open you are about your life and I have never gotten the impression that you are boasting about anything. I also really appreciate your positive outlook on life. There's not enough of that out there. Good for you for addressing that negative comment, but don't let it get you down! Most of us love your blog and look forward to updates on you and your adorable family.
Way to stand up for yourself, Natasha! You have always been such a sweet person; don't let the haters get you down!
Social media has opened up a whole new level of personal access, right? I'm so sorry you have to read such negative personal attacks "Where there is anger there is always pain underneath." -Eckhart Tolle. I LOVE your blog, thanks for sharing a bit of your life here!
LOVE YOU FRIEND!!! That's all.
I've been reading your blog for years. I would have NEVER thought those things about you. You are real, you tell your story. I don't understand why people feel the need to bash or belittle others. If you don't like it, then don't read our blogs. I'm sorry you had to go through this. **hugs**
People just aren't happy unless they are bringing others down.
YOu keep being you!
Ewww I'm so sorry that someone left you a nasty gram that is so uncalled for and unnecessary- you ROCK and don't you forget it:)
You go, Natasha! I've been reading your blog since around the beginning of your engagement and have never felt as if you portrayed yourself as the commenter described. I think some people just find satisfaction in cutting others down, and really, that's just sad.
I love that you honestly answered the questions that readers asked you, and I am so looking forward to continuing to read about how your little family is growing and changing.
Good for you for standing up to this person's nastiness and not letting it change the way you write YOUR blog!
Thank you for posting this. More people need to be aware that their comments can disrupt everything.
I love your blog, it is one of my very favorites. Thank you for being down to earth and real, and for standing up for yourself.
Girl, be proud of what you have and what you and your family have accomplished and continue to accomplish. Don't ever feel like you have to defend yourself because you don't. Stay in faith and don't let "Amanda" get to you. If you do, you only let her win. Don't let the devil into your life and don't let him win. Focus on the good, not the negative. In the end, you answer to one person and that person isn't the "Amandas" of the internet. Hope you have a fabulous weekend with your precious family and don't think twice about defending yourself. Stay cute, charming, graceful and Godly. God wants to see you and your family prosper and be blessed.
In the end, you do you. 🙂
While I have not read your blog from the beginning, I have been reading for a little while and I can not believe that someone would be that cruel! I am so sorry that some "attacked" you. Good for you for standing up for yourself. Bullying should never be ok!!!
First off, can I say that I think it's awesome you had the you know what's to just call her out on your blog? Who the heck is she to judge?
Your blog is great…don't let a couple mean girls ruin that.
As my roommate told me 'Jealousy is a sickness….get well soon!'
Glad you addressed the bully and that you are able to put it out there and move past it. It shows others you know how to spend your time on those that really matter (Jeff, Caroline, & Carson).
I'm so sorry you got a rude comment! One of the main reasons I love your blog is because you are so open and real! Please don't let the anonymous haters bring you down. We emailed a few months ago and I wrote about how one of your posts encouraged me to go to the dermatologist. Please know your honesty is making a difference in peoples lives.
I love you blog, Natasha, while sometimes on the outside it may seem you lead a perfect life, we all have out struggles. Don't let one crazy reader change how you do your blog. I love it. God Bless you and your family.
Good for you! I have always loved your blog and one of the reasons I do is because you are so open and honest. I know that this is no easy feat! Have a great weekend!
LOVE that you stood up for yourself. Sometimes things can be dimissed and other time they need to be adressed you made the right call! I agree w/ nothing that Amanda had to say about you. It is clear from your blog that you have a HUGE heart for your family and others. I LOVE reading your blog because, you are positive despite anything that happens in your life. If you ask me we could use a lot more people like you in this world. Keep up your blog and shake off those haters :). You're doing great!
Good for you girl! And for the record…it wasn't me that commented! hahaha! I love your blog and your cute little family! Also, EFF her! This blog post was the perfect way to say what you had to say in an ADULT manner 🙂
Those are some really harsh words! People just can't hold their tongues sometimes. Good for you for reacting! Your blog was one of the first blogs I started following when I created my blog and I see nothing wrong with it.
Way to go! What a piece of work saying things like that to you! Just keep your head up and keep living YOUR life! xoxox
I stumbled upon your blog a few months ago and I'm now a faithful follower! I love your open, honest and fun approach to life! We are having our first baby in July and I genuinely appreciate the tips and motivation! So glad you addressed the negative comment!!
I have been reading your blog since I became pregnant with Christian, and since he is only 6 months younger than Caroline I have to say that I really love seeing what your family is up to, and what fun is around the corner for us! You seem like such a wonderful person and it is apparent that you are a fabulous momma!! Don't let any negativity bring you down, you are fantastic!!
You go girl! Sometimes you just have to take a stand and stick up for yourself!!! Love u and your blog!!!
I think the saying is true, until you've walked a mile in my shoes…
I'm so sorry that you're dealing with nasty criticism regarding decisions YOU have made for YOUR family. I've always admired how open and honest you are and that is why I read! Stay focused on what really matters at the end of the day…your sweet family. You're doing what's best…and only you know what that is!
Sending lots of love your way today! Happy Friday! XO
i love your blog and i love how real you are on here! good for you for standing up for yourself!!! and good for you for posting this. rude commenters deserve to be called out!!
you go girl!!
I will never understand mean and hateful comments on blogs. I personally love your blog. I think you do a great job of being honest about parenting, your marriage and your life in general. No one knows what your life is really like except for the people really in it! Don't let this Amanda person bring you down. Not worth it!
I read your blog (as a fellow Nashville native), but I'm usually not one to leave comments to people I don't know personally.
I just felt like I should say something here. Jealousy is the root of all evil, and someone who takes time out of their own day to say mean things to someone they don't even know is probably dealing with a lot of problems of their own and is just looking for someone to bounce them off of. Misery loves company.
I happen to love reading your blog. 🙂 Just sending some positive vibes to offset the negative ones left by a mean girl.
First off – I LOVED this post! I love your sassy side and think you have every right and more to post about this. And, I love that it was a seperate post for itself.
Secondly – Just because you focus on the positives of your life on your blog does not mean you don't have struggles. You are a positive person and don't want to write about truly negative things… there is nothing wrong with that! You have worked hard your entire life and still do!! You constantly write about how blessed and thankful you are and you give back just as much!!!!
When I was younger, I used to call everything my "dad's money". But, my life would not have been possible if my mom was not a SAHM most of the time. I was so involved in school, she always brought treats into class, practices, etc. You did what is right for you and your family and that's what matters!
Try not to let anyone get you down! I hope you can have a happy, spring filled weekend! 🙂
Good on you for this response!!! I love reading your blog. I received a hater post on FB yesterday as well. Love tht people approach with accusations instead of questions!
Keep on being your honest, pleasant self!
Woohoo! Wow I will just never understand why some people feel the need to leave mean nasty comments on blogs. If you don't agree with the blog then just stop reading it and move on, no one is forcing you to read it so move along. People have to remember that blogs are just a snippet into our lives and let's be honest who wants to hear about the dog puking on the bed or your husband not hanging up his bath towel, or how you haven't washed your hair in 4 days. Most of us don't post photo albums on Facebook of the crappy stuff going on- you share the fun happy times.
I just have to say I think it's great that you reached out the way you did- just stand up to those people. This Amanda girl is clearly jealous
Glad you responded. I love looking at your life..and I think it's pretty nice as well. BUT I'm not dumb enough to think that you don't have struggles like the rest of us. And for someone to point that out in such a rude way is well…. RUDE!! Manners are a dying thing in this world online and in person.
Wishing you all the best!
If you consistently shared the negative things in your life you would have hate comments about how negative you are/ungrateful/not counting your blessings. I would much rather read about the POSITIVE things in people's lives.
Do bad things happy to me? Yes. Do I feel the need to dwell on them and write about them on my blog? No. My life is so much more fulfilling and happy when I keep a positive perspective and live in a constant state of feeling blessed. I can understand and respect others who do so (such as yourself).
Please keep your sunny-side-up attitude and blog personality! It is so refreshing and lovely.
I have been reading your blog for at least 2 years and never do I comment but just wanted to say that I LOVE your blog as is! I hate to hear people being so rude and wanted to say there are those readers out there that enjoy your positivity on a regular basis!! 🙂
I love this post! I have been experiencing a LOT of people putting in their two sense about my engagement, financial situation, etc lately and it is AWFUL. This Amanda should 1- mind her own business, 2- stop spreading negativity for no reason and 3- pray for herself instead of you. I find your blog very fun and genuine. I love my career and pray it affords me the option to one day be a SAHM. Keep up the good work!
I'm amazed at what some people comment on blogs. If you don't agree with it stop reading the blog! And of course we don't share all the negative things on our blogs… How depressing would that be for others to read. Everyone has struggles regardless if you are a working mom or SAHM and people shouldn't assume otherwise. Keep your head high and don't let people like that get you down.
Way to go!!
You go girl! I'm always appalled and commenters who bash bloggers, but I love when the blogger calls them out! People think they can hide behind their computers and belittle others and thats not okay. I've been following your blog for years and I've never thought you were "boastful" or anything like that. I love to hear about your life and I think you should be pretty damn proud of what you have! 🙂
I will never understand the envious people who purposely try to bring down others. I applaud you for being public about how much Amanda's cowardly, rude, hurtful and unnecessary comment bothered you. Taking the high road and expressing your feelings without placing blame or attacking her is so admirable. I can't say I would be able to do that…I probably would have cried to my husband and taken weeks to get over the cruelty. Good for you!
Couldn't of said it better myself! It's hard to put your life on a blog for the world to see…and in my opinion you do so with grace and kindness. Even your response to that nasty comment was graceful. I will never understand why some people choose to be hateful, rude, and ignorant. Props to you for handling this so well! I hope that Amanda unsubscribes from my blog too! I love your blog, your honesty, and upbeat attitude…keep doing what you are doing!
So glad you wrote this post! I love your blog and I'm sorry you received such a rude and classless comment…glad you addressed it. I personally like to ready happy and uplifing blogs, and yours is just that! PS. Please have another blog sale soon 🙂
Your blog is so fun and this is your place to say what you want. Kudos for answering a rude comment in a gutsy post!
It takes guts to stand up to cyber-bullying (and that's exactly what this is), so way to go!
I've never commented on your blog, but I so love reading it and I want to give you a big shout out and say AMEN SISTER! There will always be people who criticize other people, but stand your ground. Know that criticizers are bitter about something and think the best way to feel better about themselves is to tear others down.
I stumbled on your blog through another Nashville blogger, and since I just moved away from Nashville (insert biggest sad face ever), it's fun for me to see glimpses of Nashville through your writing. And I'm a new mom, so seeing your journey is refreshing and encouraging.
Thank you for all you do and for speaking your mind!
Goodness me what is wrong with girls?! I got a good laugh out of the Real Housewife's part because that's just funny.. I love all the housewives shows so that's a good thing.. But just not their crazy lives.
I love ya – you were always one of my first blogs I found and good for you to giving this girl a piece of what she deserves!
I've followed your blog for quite some time but haven't really commented. Some people have such nerve! I've always thought you were so honest and very real! Way to stand up for yourself and not let her get away with that nonsense!
Glad you got that out there in an upfront, non-passive aggressive way! Also, I am tired of the vilification of people who are fortunate financially. If you are comfortable, it does not make you a bad person or a spendthrift. UGH!
I am appalled someone would attack you. I mean "How you spend your husbands money" really?!? Someone said that?! Jealous. Hates gonna hate. You are wonderful. You have one of THEE BEST blogs out there and one of the few I read consistently when you post. I hope you continue to hold your head high you have every right to!!! Love you!!! 🙂 Your blog truly is Happiness!! 🙂 xo, CMae
Amen! Loved your response!
I can't imagine how frustrating it would get to receive personal attacks from people who don't know you or your life. Sorry you have to deal with that. Some people need to work on their jealousy and find another outlet for their frustration in their own lives. Being financially comfortable is not shameful and you shouldn't have to hide it so as to avoid hurting this girl's clearly fragile ego.
YOU GO, GIRL! 🙂
Way to turn the other cheek, friend! Your character shines through this post. Love ya! xo
It's a shame everyone can't see the funny, rapping, hannah-lore loving,t-shirt designing, hot spot hottie I got to know in college.. who then became a successful professional and great mom. 🙂
Yeah, so…I've never left a comment. I just love your blog. I don't even know how I stumbled on it, but I love it. You have cute decorating ideas, some dinner ideas, party ideas, and you are positive. It's nice to see that at the end of my day. In fact, I've been reading so many I decided to start one of my own. I had one previously, but it was focused on being an Aunt, and I really wanted to start fresh to document my new life as a girlfriend, which will oneday change to wife and I hope mommy. Thanks for sharing and being honest with us. Have a great weekend.
And, people that say that are usually jealous… they just don't realize it. Hang in there.
I usually don't comment, but I wanted you to know I love reading your blog! I am a recent SAHM too and your posts on what to buy for baby and a day in the life of Caroline really helped me when I had my sweet baby girl 🙂 Please keep blogging and don't let one person get you down because I think most people like me love your blog. I'm the mom who goes out to run errands in work out clothes while my daughter is dressed cute and in a matching bow 🙂
Kudos to you girlfriend! Big love and hugs from this little ol Texas girl who absolutely adores your blog! I think you are doing an amazing job and I personally love that you are REAL.
Blogging is great therapy. Don't let this jealous person ruin your spirit and your happiness.
Love & Hugs from Texas…
That girl is talking pure craziness!! I don't get it, if you don't like what you are reading, don't read it! I Love your blog and you should be proud of it! I hope you have a great weekend and forget about this girl, she is a waste of your time!!!
I stumbled upon your blog a few months ago and have been a reader ever since! I never comment because I don't know you personally, but after I read those mean and hateful words that "Amanda" had written to you, I was shocked. I think it's important for women to stick up for each other and support each other, not slam them for the wonderful and blessed things you have in your life. I'm so glad that you decided to stick up for yourself! I think you should be very proud of your blog, I love reading it!
Way to standup for yourself. Some people just cannot be happy for others! I loved reading the answers.
Ugh. I feel bad that this person's comments got to you (I would be upset, too, if a total stranger tried to tear me down). I hope you don't take the comments too much to heart & continue to share in the same manner as you had before. I don't think anyone should feel obligated to share their struggles or conflicts or shortcomings in a social media outlet for fear being viewed as "fake" if they do not. I personally would much rather read a joyous or informative post,status update, tweet, etc. anyday over a negative/pessimistic one. I'm a person who generally prefers to share the happy highlights of my days, not because I'm attempting to come across as perfect, but because it's just not really my nature to dwell upon & mope about any struggles or problems. I definitely prefer to spend my time celebrating the joys. Any sort of "offense" to this comes from a place of insecurity and disappointment in the reader's own life. And as you stated in your post, if your blog stirs up such catty (and though she probably won't admit it, jealous) feelings, then she doesn't have to read it!
From what I "know" of you on your blog, you are a happy, beautiful woman with a handsome husband, gorgeous baby girl (with another on the way – congrats!), and overall a pretty sweet life! Am I envious? Heck yes! But only because I want that happiness for everyone, you included. You don't come across as fake, you have been real about some of your struggles. And you know what? If you did choose to only show the highlight reel of your life, that would be ok too! There's no rule saying if you celebrate the high points, you must also include every bad hair day, marital fight or toddler tantrum.
Wow, some people just can't be happy for others. Good for you for standing up for yourself. My husband's advice is "Don't feed the trolls" when it comes to blogging/internet criticism, which I found hilarious. Why do I read your blog? Because you seem very GENUINE to me and you always try to remain positive. I like that – we all need a ray of sunshine for inspiration every now and then. And you are real about how your life isn't perfect, afterall, nobody's is! Keep doing what you do…you wouldn't have 2000+ followers if you weren't good at it 😉
I'm usually a lurker but a long time follower of yours and I just wanted to pop in and say that I'm one of your many supporters! Bless that girl's heart, is the most PG thing I can say about her. If people stick by the rules of working hard, living well below their means, and saving saving saving…then surprise they'll have money! It's not rocket science, some people are just bitter about their situation. You and Jeff are great people, and you will raise incredible children. Keep doing your thing, Natasha.
Thank you so much for answering my questions! Your answers were perfect and so helpful!
People are so silly. Like you said… if you don't like what I say on my blog, DON'T READ IT!
Your blog is one of my favorites and thank you for putting it all out there!
You can't help your family is so darn cute… 🙂
You go girl!!!
I love your blog, your honesty and the way you keep it real.
By all the comments here today.. It's very clear you have a big group of supporters.
I feel sorry for the rude commenter on your last post. It's sad when jealousy takes over and you allow such ugly words to come out.
Keep doing what you're doing 🙂
I loved the Q and A post! Sorry for the nasty comments, they reflect badly on her and it's sad. Carry on with all the Happiness!! 🙂
You did the right thing in sticking up for yourself! What's worse is that he/she had to be anonymous about it…so they had the guts to be mean but then felt they had to hide from it? That's a coward!
For what it's worth, I love your blog and always appreciate your honesty. 🙂
Very well said!! I will never understand why some people have that kind of hate inside them, to hide behind a computer and try to drag others down is just cowardly and frankly a waste of Amanda's time… If she hates your blog so much she should find something better to do with her time!!
As for you my dear, you are absolutely a class act! Super relatable and are always posting clever and original material for your blog! I absolutely love reading and as mom myself with a little girl only a few months behind Caroline who dealt with the same struggles, I love to be able to read In on your honesty and opinion on things!!
Lets pray for all the people with hate in their hearts!!
Way to stand up for yourself! It's ridiculous that someone feels the need to send a hateful message like that in the first place. Like you said, this is YOUR blog and people come here on their own free will to enjoy reading about your life. I'd say that girl has some jealousy issues and poor self esteem that she'd go out of her way to read someone's blog just to judge them cruelly for what they say on it! You are correct, she needs our prayers. I enjoy stopping by here for a fun peek at another young gal loving her family and enjoying life, keep up the great work!
I don't know why people still surprise me with their rude comments. Why take the time out of your day to be mean? And there's no reason why you should be defending yourself on your site.
We lived in Nashville for a year and 1/2 and I looooved it. We were in Thompsons Station, but my husband worked in Franklin. I taught in Columbia. Love, love the Franklin area. Great school, great values, great location.
I left a comment for that mean girl Amanda on your post and I noticed I didn't tell you that I love yor blog!!! I look forward to your daily updates! I glad you confronted her.
I have a 5 mo old son named Travis and love him dearly! I was wondering how your 2nd pregnancy is going?
I will never understand the whole "internet bullying" thing. People obviously have way too much time on their hands to take the time to be hurtful and mean, and like you said–if she doesn't like what you write about, why is she reading? let alone commenting? You obviously have tons of readers that love this little peek into your life, so keep on keeping on, friend 🙂
It's silly you can't have a successful life without someone complaining about it. Of course people are going to be jealous, but there's no need to voice it. They can simply stay silent or unfollow.
Besides – even if you were out spending your husbands money and living a 'Real Housewife of Nashville' life – what does that matter?! There are plenty of families like that, and there is NOTHING wrong with that, It's a fact of life.
I wish I had your itty bitty body and wardrobe, but I'm not going to hate you for it 😉
Good for you, Natasha! Kudos for standing up for yourself. Don't let one jealous person bring you down. Hope you and your precious family are enjoying a lovely weekend!
You go girl! What a brave thing to do. Honestly, that commenter was incredibly rude but you should be incredibly proud for addressing it in such an upfront gracious, fierce way. Love it!
Natasha, I am so sorry that a mean girl wrote something like that. But kudos for calling her out.
I just don't understand why a person would do that-why not just STOP reading?
Good for you, girl!
I occasionally see people post posts like this on their blogs (about getting nasty comments). For the first time ever, I went make a read the offending comment. And, wow, Amanda was so so rude. Something I, quite frankly, should remind some of my own acquaintances is that Just b/c you happen to live somewhat comfortably and don't have to worry about about money on a daily basis, doesn't mean you are a snob or "wealthy". And it certainly doesn't mean you don't have a great work ethic. What I can say for sure (and I think most will agree and have agreed in above comments) is that Amanda is wildly insecure. It is her flaw, certainly not yours. I also can't help but wonder if Amanda is married b/c one could infer that she doesn't know the slightest thing about being married and being in a truly equal and supportive partnership. Hang in there.
i saw this post the other day and meant to comment I but wanted a minute to sit down and read the whole thing through because Ive dealt with that too! I always say the people with the biggest balls (excuse my french) are the ones online and behind an anonymous or fake account!
Im with you on taking the high road bc sometimes these people don't even deserve a response! You're a great person inside and out and I'm sure you don't need anyone on the internet to validate that for you. Its just sad that people are so unhappy with themselves that they have to bash others to feel better.
Way to stand up for yourself! I've recently run across your blog and never commented, but wanted to say go girl! People will think what they want, stay true to yourself and they can stop reading if they don't like it.
Hang in there girl! I love your blog, it's usually the first one I go to every day and am blue on the days you do not blog! Don't let this negative nancy get you down and keep you from blogging. Can't wait to watch your girls grow up through the blog.
Wow, I'm glad you stood up for yourself! I'm so sorry you've had to deal with this negativity. I'm a fellow Nashville girl (Brentwood) and I stumbled upon your blog about a year ago. Like you, I just don't understand why someone would take the time to write a negative comment like that. If you don't like someone's blog, don't read it!! You should not feel like you have to justify ANYTHING to this girl.
Another thing I don't understand is why these nasty commenters are so "angry" with bloggers who have the means to live their life the way they do. Do they want you to be poor? Do they expect you to live your life exactly like they do? I follow Sheridan French's blog and she was attacked with a nasty comment when she mentioned that she had a chef. The commenter was SO mad at her that she wasn't cooking her family's meals and she runs her own company, has 3 children under 3 and happens to have the money to have a chef. I would if I could too!! I didn't hate her because she has one.
And what was the deal with you spending your husband's money???? That was SO uncalled for. You are married!!! Don't you wish you had someone to hit delete before you saw it b/c even though you don't know this person and you know her comments are nasty, they still have to hurt. Only a jealous, angry person would write these things and I can't believe people would ask such deeply personal questions!! Some people just can't be happy for anyone that lives a happy, successful life. I hope you can just put this out of your mind and keep blogging. I love reading your blog and I'm sorry you had to read such nastiness. 🙂
I love your blog! I have never commented before, but this inspired me to leave you a little encouragement! Standing up for yourself was the right move!
I adore you! And this blog and your perfectly cute little family!!
Crazy women are vicious! I too have experienced the crazies and it can be so hurtful reading the meanness that they post. Just know that that's ONE hateful reader and that you have THOUSANDS of LOVING, CARING readers who love you and your family, so don't let the ONE ruin this for you!!
Good for you for standing up for yourself!
And as my mother said to me when I went through this, "You must grow thick skin if you're going to put yourself in the public eye. Because there will always be someone trying to pull you down!" And she was so RIGHT! You just have to ignore the crazies!!
You're AWESOME!!! So don't sweat it lady!!
I find it so sad that someone would attack you like that. I don't normally comment on blogs but after reading that post I wanted to let you know how much others appreciate your blog. I am an avid reader – 22 years old living all the way in Canada. And I must say I find you quite inspirational – as a single young university student facing some of the same things you went through, I have gone back and read your blog from the start and it gives me hope for when I grow older and hopefully get married and start a family. It is easy to see by reading your blog that you are a very thankful person, very positive and hard-working. Keep blogging for those that do appreciate it – the others aren't even worth your time! 🙂
Thank you for your honesty and always being upfront on your blog! I truly enjoy reading your blog on a daily basis! Thank you!
Good for you, Mama!!!! I'll be praying for Amanda, because you're right, it sounds like she needs some Jesus in her life.
Your blog is wonderful and I enjoy reading it. I think you are so honest and real and are so sweet and wonderful. This post was so mature of you. I don't know if I would have been able to handle her rude comments as graciously as you did.
One more high five from this blogger. My favorite thing about you is your positivity and good energy. That even comes across in a post where you are rightfully letting somebody have it. There is no need for jealous B's to muck up your day. Get 'em girl!
Whew girl! I read this on my phone so I am late commenting but that girls comments really fired me up. I get so annoyed with people who leave such hateful words anonymously! Good thing you will pray for her because she obviously needs it. I can;t imagine how awful her life must be to take the time to say such things or to have such a twisted view of what 99% of your readers see as fun and entertaining.
Good day to that skank!
Good for you for this… there are people who need to hear it! I know we're not in close contact since college, but I want you to know that I love your blog, and am so proud of your journey. You're hard-working, ambitious, value your marriage and kids, try to live Dave Ramsey style (which is hard… I would know!) and most importantly, have put Christ at the center. THAT is where the difference lies. The joys in your world are just the overflow of living that life. Keep your chin up, keep spreading positivity, and keep leaning on Him for strenght. You are an amazing woman- strong, courageous, and definitely a role model. Keep it up!
Oh I love that you called her out and replied to her obviously very hurtful message. This is actually my first time reading this blog (I found you through "The good life" blog!) and I was sadden to see that you had to even reply to such a person. I love looking at peoples blogs and feel privileged that people such as yourself allow us that small glimpse. You keep blogging and nevermind the small minded, jealous people of the world.
Well said! So happy you wrote this post and stood up for you!!!! I think if people don't like what you say or put in your blog, then they should move on! You are better than that and don't need to take crap from anyone. I adore your blog and I know many others do too. Don't let one bad apple spoil it for you! Cheers
GOOD FOR YOU! It's so hard to just let things roll off your shoulders sometimes and I definitely think you deserved to defend yourself…GOOD FOR YOU!
Wow, I am so sorry you had to deal with that! You are so right to pray for her. As a new blogger, this situation is something I really fear with blogging. I love sweet encouragement but fear the day I get something nasty. I truly blog for me only. If I have followers great; if not, who cares-it's the internet. Blogging can be such a great community and it is so unfortunate that this type of nasty cristicism occurs. Good for you for standing up to her. Personally, I just love your always optimistic blog!
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