It’s here my friends…today is my 30th birthday. Honestly, I can’t believe I’m the big 3-0 because I don’t feel like I am that “mature” (no, I won’t refer to 30 as old). It’s crazy to think that a mere five years ago I was gallivanting around Nashville, single as a bird, and now I am married with two kiddos…time flies and things can change so very quickly and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I feel like I have learned a thing or two and am here today to share my life lessons/things I know/what I’ve learned…I have actually been drafting this post for the last year so that I would have enough to share and wouldn’t forget some of the important stuff. I am hoping I can add to this list as I “mature” (no, still not going to say get older) and that maybe there will be at least one lady out there to learn something from the experiences I’ve encountered thus far-here goes nothing!
Things I Know/Lessons I’ve Learned
1. Sunscreen is essential. Tanning beds are horrible. I wish I could undo all the years of damage to my skin from sunburns at the beach to hundreds of minutes spent in the tanning bed trying to get that perfect tan. Now, I use SPF on my face everyday and I get a faux glow with a spray tan.
3. You change and so does your circle of friends. People come and go in and out of our lives and that’s life. I have come to realize I would rather have a small, close group of girls who have the same interests/beliefs/values than a bunch of “acquaintances” I can’t really relate to. Remember, friendships are a two-way street and both must give equally.
4. Never put anyone else before your husband/partner.
5. Tattoos aren’t easy to remove. It was a stupid decision in Cancun during the summer of 2001 and I am still paying for it today. I don’t live with regret, but this is the ONE thing I would undo if I could. I foresee removal in my future one day.
7. Being a mother is much more difficult than I ever imagined. It’s amazing and I know I say that all the time, but it’s HARD work and sometimes I get scared because I am the one shaping our girls’ lives/molding them into who they are going to be. I thought being a mom would be glamorous, yet on most days it involves lots of messy diapers, food all over the floor, and temper tantrums…but on the other hand, there are WAY more hugs, kisses, and smiles and that makes life worth living.
9. Working out is good for the body AND the soul. Fitness and maintaining an active lifestyle has always been important to me, but I really started getting into the groove a few years ago when I was training for my first half marathon and was in wedding mode. Since then, I try to workout at least a few times each week and I think it helps me keep my life a lot more balanced. And those added endorphins don’t hurt either!
10. It’s normal to change your mind, or your opinion.
11. Work hard, but don’t work so much that life passes you by. I am always having to remind my husband of this, as he is a die-hard workaholic. He loves his job so it’s hard for him to take a step back to see the big picture. I tell him to live in the moment and remember to savor this time we have because they will only happen once. A career is important, but family comes first.
12. There is no one I aspire to be more than my mom. She offers a wealth of knowledge, and I learn from her each and every day. When I get myself in a pickle, I’ll try to think “what would she do?” or “how would she overcome this obstacle?” She is THE greatest role model in my life and her wisdom and guidance never fail me.
13. Everything in moderation. I’ve never been one to jump on the bandwagon for the fad diets and such, I just go by the motto to do everything in moderation…including eating the foods you love and having a cocktail every now and then. If I quit something cold turkey, like desserts, then you better believe I will gorge on them when I have the opportunity rather than just “sampling the goods”.
14. It’s OK to celebrate success. I used to be afraid to shout it out when we had something great happen, for fear that others would be rude or say unkind things. I just have to remember it’s a good thing to be happy when things go our way and to get excited!
15. You’re never too old to learn something new.
16. Time alone AKA being independent is a must for me. I love time with Jeff and the girls, but sometimes I need a clean “break” from them, even if only for a little bit. This could mean a solo trip to Target, a drive with the windows down to get my favorite cherry limeade from Sonic, or whatnot, but alone time helps me think/cope/deal and I relish in that moment of peace and quiet.
17. Live your life for YOU and no one else. It is the ONLY way you’ll ever be truly happy. I can’t say this enough…and sometimes I struggle with this because I am a people pleaser. But at the end of the day, I have to live my life the way I want to and who cares what others think…you can’t please everyone so you shouldn’t even try.
18. Just like a fine wine, we get better with age. We learn, we grow, and we evolve into the people we’re meant to be…never be afraid to grow up/mature for there are some good perks, too!
19. Visit the doctor annually. Yes, there, I said it…I am guilty, as I hate going to yearly checkups-particularly the dermatologist-but it will help you in the long run to make sure everything is working properly and you’re the healthiest you can be.
20. Live without regret.
21. People are ALWAYS going to judge you. It’s a fact of life that no matter what you do, someone is going to judge you in some form or fashion. Whether it be what you do for a living, how you spend your money, what you do with your free time, etc, it’s inevitable. But at the end of the day, remember it’s your life and who cares what others think.
22. Making mistakes is OK. Let’s face it: you can’t be perfect, nor should you try (yes, I am saying this statement loud and clear as it applies to me). The best thing to do is learn from your mistakes and come back better than ever.
23. Don’t save things for a special occasion.. Everyday of your life is a special occasion and we’re not guaranteed tomorrow!
24. Be kind to everyone you meet. Yes, everyone, even though sometimes that can be difficult. You don’t know what they are facing in life.
25. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. God created you for a reason and be proud of who you are.
26. Never leave the house without mascara and lip gloss. That’s a personal rule for me, but it’s one I live by…never know you will run into and it’s ALWAYS when you look like a hot mess.
27. You’re never too old to watch Disney movies.
28. Vacations make life worth living. We love to travel and have a list of all the places we want to go and visit at some point in life…one can only dream we will make it to all of them, but travelling is so much fun and a great way to see other cultures.
29. Playing dress up is fun as a child…and as an adult.
30. Always say please AND thank you. Showing gratitude goes a long way.
Honestly, I am so excited to enter the next decade of my life…a lot of people tell me their thirties were the best years-you know who you are and you know what you want. God has blessed me these past 30 years and I am looking to the future to see what He has in store for me next!